An odd sort of phenomenon exists amongst people with BPD wherein there’s a strong desire to deny the diagnosis and/or fight against it. I’ve read accounts from people who talk about their diagnosis as if it’s just one big conspiracy cooked up by their health professionals, loved ones and family members to ruin their lives.
A curious situation…. and I believe it has a lot to do with the immense amount of stigma and shame that’s still associated with this disorder. Sure, misdiagnosis can happen, but I think this is becoming less common as knowledge of BPD is evolving.
Acceptance is a key first step in healing from anything. It can be scary to accept BDP as a diagnosis (trust me I know all about that!) but it doesn’t have to feel like a death sentence and I absolutely hate it when people refer to their diagnosis as a “label.” Mostly this just makes me feel sad though. How can one begin to heal in such a state of mind?
Is it easy? No. Our own minds and our bad experiences of the past can continually work against us. Progress can only be made though when we talk openly and honestly about what is going on in our minds. We should all consider ourselves part of the learning process and not be afraid to open the door to recovery. After all, taking the first step towards feeling better is really what diagnosis is all about.