I’ve been reading about mental health problems and how they may arise from the unmet needs in our lives.
Seems simple enough:
- 1: Identify your unmet needs.
- 2: Work out a plan to meet those needs.
Scads of enterprising people make money selling books and/or videos that propose such a thing is simple anyway. All you have to do is follow their 10 steps to releasing your suffering….10 steps to happiness…. 10 steps to financial freedom… 10 steps to… oh, something or other.
The examples they use are often laughable, too. Inspiring stories that have little to do with most people’s reality. I’m truly glad that there’s a village in Tibet where 100% happiness has been achieved but how does that apply to someone living in South Dakota? Let’s draw some comparisons here. Well, both breathe oxygen, eat food….. poop…. ummm…..
“I think that’s about it,” says Bubba.
Allow me to summarize: “Quick and simple solutions to mental health problems is merely someone trying to sell a book.”
Anyway, so back to this “unmet needs” thing. I was thinking of unmet needs as falling short in one or more of the following areas:
- Family support and nurturing
- Effective friendships
- Gainful employment
- Financial stability
- Stable place of residence
- Romantic love and support
- Sense of purpose
I got some additional ideas from some of the following websites:
- Unmet love
5 Unmet Needs That May Cause Psychological Issues in Adulthood from NYC Therapy
- Secure attachment
4 unmet needs that can cause psychological issues when we grow up from Better Therapy
- Physical well-being
Needs Inventory from The Center for Nonviolent Communication
So, what are the unmet needs in your life? (**Example: I excel at being poor! Hoorah… rocking poverty like a marine rocks a crew cut.)
Next, how do you go about trying to fill in the gaps? (Rob a bank??? Probably not such a good idea!)
It might seem trivial but right now my unmet need is ice cream. Luckily, it’s an easy need to meet. 10 steps to the car… 10 steps (or so) to the grocery store (don’t forget wallet!) That’s all it takes! Always makes me feel better!
Seriously though, this unmet needs is something to consider… and my intention is not to poo-poo on self-help books. Amongst the dung, there are a few diamonds that shine bright.
Have a great day!!
Every Monday from now until I get tired of it I will be posting on various mental health topics. That’s a joke. I never get tired of talking about mental health!